By Ifeoluwa Akinola
So many people have diverse opinion about the sexual psyche of unmarried ladies Interestingly, all of them have their various psychological basis because it can be said that Sex is CONDITIONAL.
There are psychological variables for unmarried women to have sex. This explains why some women find it easy to have sex with whoever they are dating or anyone else while some others find it hard to give in to sex before marriage or outside it.
I have observed and reasoned the following psychological rationalisation for the different sexual characters of unmarried Ladies.
The need for acceptance
The need for provision
The need for fulfilment
The need to satisfy a craving
The need to fulfil a responsibility
The Matyr’s complex
The Lady whose need is to seek acceptance gives in to sex because having sex becomes the currency for her acceptance in d relationship. Hence it reassures her of being best before any other. This bae therefore gives more sex to sustain her place of importance in the man’s heart. However, she stands a risk of feeling guilt once her level of acceptance is threatened. This could lead to having multiple sexual partners in her life time.
The Female, who sees sex as her only bargaining power or exchange for her partner to satisfy her material need is the Provision lady. To her, sex as a means to an end. Hence, she is at risk to have multiple sexual partners.
The woman with the need to satisfy a craving will nevertheless have multiple partners. This is because biologically and psychologically she has been compromised. To her Sex is an addiction and a crave that must be satisfied as the need arises. Hence, she goes down with any available sex mate. She doesn’t need money or love however; she might feel guilty after her craving has been met.
The female with a Matyr’s complex may not love or trust her sexual partner. However, she gives into sex because she feels bad about saying no to her guy’s request. She then tries to look caring, good, and in the long run gets manipulated by any guy who has observed her well and is ready to latch on to the opportunity her nature provides. This lady also has a risk of having multiple partners and feeling guilt after the sexual act.
The Responsibility driven lady nurtures her relationship as if it were marriage already. Then she’ll have sex like a married woman. This female gains optimum satisfaction as long as the relationship goes fine, therefore sticks with a single partner.
The fulfilment Lady sees having sex as a means of conquering her foes and harnessing her influence base. To her, sex is a means of bridging the status gap between herself and her partner. Sex is her tool of power and it is a game. Hence, she feels no guilt having multiple sexual partners. More often than not, she gets satisfied after the sexual acts.
©Observations by Adelaja M. Olasubomi
Credit for discussion and compilation: Akinola E. Ifeoluwa
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